So many times I have met with someone that has been "playing divorce" without actually having started a divorce.  In saying this, I mean that a husband/wife has already moved out and/or separated bank accounts or even started dating another individual all the while being married pursuant to Tennessee law.  

Most of the time it is hard for the person to understand that there are very real and substantial ramifications of "playing divorce" while staying legally married.  For instance, the money that is made and contributed to a retirement account by a separated party is generally going to be seen as marital property and therefore subject to division even though you have not potentially been sharing expenses or even living together for some time.

Further, the fact that you are separated and generally do not have a parenting plan in writing can oftentimes suggest to the court the intentions of the parties as it relates to the children as well as the "best interests" of the children.  This can significantly affect the ability to get more or get less time with the children once the formal divorce process begins.

I understand divorces can be expensive (not always) but it is critical to speak with a reputable attorney that can give you advice before "playing divorce" leads to unintended consequences.  

I am happy to discuss this and other legal issues that may be of concern to you or a loved one.  Please feel free to give me a call.  

s/Brock East