When asked, Florida couples give many reasons why they are
getting a divorce. The dynamics of each relationship are unique to each couple,
so it is difficult to generalize. There are, however, some reasons that seem to
surface again and again in any discussion of the reasons why their marriage is
ending. Yet there may be a way for many couples to end on a peaceful note for
those who can agree to get along well enough to consider divorce mediation.
In a recent survey, researchers discovered that the reason
given by most people who are getting divorced is a rather broad category: “unreasonable
behavior.” Many behaviors can be categorized as unreasonable, depending upon
the people within the relationship. One person may consider the fact that her
partner has withdrawn money from a joint savings account to be unreasonable.
Another more social person may consider his partner to be unreasonable if she
prefers staying home to going out in a group with friends.
This trend has grown since the 1960s, when it was only the
reason given for divorce by 28 percent of the people surveyed at that time.
Though adultery gets the most press, it actually only accounts for 15 percent
of today’s divorces.
The good news in these statistics is that since divorces are
more and more occurring because certain behaviors are incompatible with one
partner’s personality, more couples may be willing to consider divorce
mediation when they end their marriages.
Available in Florida and in some other states, divorce
mediation can produce an amicable end to a relationship in which the spouses are
not compatible enough to live together. It seeks to create a settlement that is
fair to both parties by the couple working together to achieve a result that
benefits all involved.
Even in the case of infidelity, with all of the hard
feelings that such behavior can engender, a couple can benefit from divorce
mediation if they are willing to put those feelings aside for long enough to
create a settlement through the help of a mediator. Working through the process
to create a fair settlement may help such couples part in peace.
Source: myfoxphilly.com, Study Shows Biggest Reason For
Divorce Is 'Unreasonable Behavior, No author, Sept. 23, 2013
